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Bondage
By Tinah | September 26, 2008
I never would have thought that a relationship would be so intense. Well of course I suspected it and expected to be mildly intense, but never in my right mind. Never did I believe for one minute that it could take such a huge toll on my mentality, my emotions, and my physical life. I can’t stand it when we argue or when I make him upset because in my mind I am suppose to be there for him and support his mentality. Emotionally I try not to get to upset about little things, but I’m a woman! Dammit and us women tend to get emotional for no darn reason sometimes. Physically it affects me because somethings when you’re mentally and emotionally tired your body tends to tear down along with it. I guess the sole purpose in this writing is to share what it’s like to be in a solid relationship. You must not invest just, “love” like many people believe it to be, but you must invest your mentality, your emotions, and of course your entire physical strength. I find it so amazing that love in a person can pull so much from you. I find it so satisfying to recieve those advances in return. I don’t think many people understand my concept of, “love” because they see that I have choosen best for myself and not best for others! That is completely wrong! Love is suppose to be between two people, but it’s their life together that should involve others. Why do I say this? I believe that in order for a relationship or an intense emotional attachment to work you must be able to satisfy not only each other, but the others in your life. Sometimes people fight to be together when the people in their lives object. I would have to say that there is nothing wrong with that at all, but do keep in mind that sometimes the voices of the people around you do indeed matter. I have came across many young girls who believe that love will get them through burning walls and stormy waters, but they have no clue that being with someone requires more than just their so called, “love.” In my years of experiences I realized that sometimes we need to think with our brain before our heart because once our heart has decided to rest upon one person then it will create many illusions to tell us that there is nothing wrong with the relationship that we are pursuing so aggresively. I can’t tell anyone how to think or love, but I can offer my advice and that is to take in consideration the many things outside of just the two of you because deciding to committ yourself. Committment may seem like the most beautiful answer, but in reality if you aren’t ready .. Committmend mind as well be rennamed suicide.
-My Random Rant -.-”
Topics: Love | 1 Comment »
October 10th, 2008 at 5:18 am
“I have came across many young girls who believe that love will get them through burning walls and stormy waters, but they have no clue that being with someone requires more than just their so called, “love.” ”
You’re absolutely right, young girls don’t understand that a relationship takes more than love. Love is just the foundation: trust, patience and endurance is the key for a healthy relationship.